Stuttering, Stuttering Therapy and Dating
In this section, I will offer my own observations about stuttering, stuttering therapy and dating. As you browse through any internet dating website, you will come across many profiles of singles. Those people have not been successful at finding that special someone despite the fact they do not stutter themselves. Nevertheless, they are alone.
Of course, the circumstances that have led to them being alone are different. A person might have something wrong with his or her personality that might signal other people to stay away. Some people lack social skills and do not take risks. Some people are insecure.
Leading several support groups in the past, I quickly realized that many people who stutter often have several problems that I already listed above. When we are young, we often think people will not accept us for who we are. We are insecure because of our stuttering. We are afraid to be perceived as weak and not confident. Therefore, we stay away from many social events, not just dating. We depend on some stuttering therapy to correct the speech. Then, we assume that all our inadequacies will go away by themselves. They NEVER do.
Anyone who is older like me will tell you that the best dating opportunities are in college. People are generally available for dating. They do not have as many negative beliefs about opposite sex that many older people do. They are more open to exploring and taking risks. People who stutter often do not and cannot take advantage of many opportunities that their school provides them with. Inability to talk fluently, being isolated from others and always being in pain simply adds to already miserable life.
During many support group meetings, I have heard that once a person who stutters will go through some stuttering therapy; he or she will start dating. Once the speech is more or less corrected, it will be time to date. As you already realize, this person does not really get to dating part. Why not?
No stuttering therapy can correct personality inadequacies that a person who stutters develops.
Unfortunately, if a person does not do what needs to be done in his life, there will be painful regrets and disappointments. Eventually, he or she will be brave enough to post a personal profile on some dating site. However, this person will realize sooner or later that mostly “leftovers” that nobody really wants are available for him to date.
We live in a very competitive society where we need to compete for jobs. I mentioned it previously. Also, we need to compete for the “best” partners, places to live, schools to attend. Our society imposes these values on us. I did not just create them. As I experienced myself and observed, most people who stutter are ill-equipped to participate in life. I do not just talk about dating. As a result, we are more often than not end up with jobs that we hate, partners we do not like, and life that we want to escape, but cannot. Again, no stuttering therapy can suddenly correct these problems!
However, what my Natural Therapy for Stuttering can and will do for you is it will allow you to start healing yourself from inside out. As you start speaking more and more fluently, you will gain confidence. You will begin making small changes in all other areas of your life. As we all know, small changes can lead to big changes. In this regard, this stuttering therapy will prevail over all other therapies out there.
